The other night I popped into the facebook group, after having a rather restless night with my son.
Here’s what I posted:
“My son couldn't get to sleep tonight... he was tossing and turning,
What with the storm outside and a huge clap of thunder there was a lot of electric energy in the air and he's so sensitive... After a couple of hours of him trying and also trying to help him relax... I pulled out the energy work.
After some sweeps of his energy and grounding his feet, as well as surrounding him in light... he was asleep within 10 minutes.
I could tell it was what he needed the way his body gave a jolt as it relaxed...
I used to get really stressed when my kids couldn't sleep. I would feel the tension rise up within me which would of course make them stressed as well. It was awful.
But now, I see sleep as a spiritual aspect of life and I love having the opportunity to practice little spiritual tools with my kids to help them connect as they drift off for their nightly journeys.”
Why does this work?
Throughout the day our children are thinking, moving, and living fully in their physical experience. When you do an energy clearing, you are clearing any blocks of resistance all that physical observing may have created. You not only create a space to relax and chill out their mind chatter, but you are reminding them that they are Spirit first and foremost. You are reminding them of Who They Are.
And the Spirit wants our bodies to rest so they can play in dreamland.
So, often with a jolt, the body releases tension and the resistance to relax, and the Spirit connects to all that is.
The post got a lot of attention in the group, so I wanted to talk about my experience with energy work in a little more detail here,
I then want to offer you something that’s come up recently.
Energy work has popped up at various times in my life…
~ When I was 17, in theatre school, there was a classmate who was a healer. (we were a mixed bag class, ranging from 16- 50 :) )
I’d always been curious about energy work and healing, and she started to talk to me about chakras, color therapy, auras… she then took a look at my hands and, with a strange look in her eye, told me I had white light coming from my left hand, and that I was a natural healer. I have to admit, my hand withdrew quickly, as it was out of my comfort zone.
~ As you may or may not know I met my Jeff on a magical journey over to the UK. I was spiritually led to him and after that moment of love at first sight, we found ourselves hand in hand and pretty much inseparable.
I couldn’t tell you what led to us starting to play with each other’s energy fields while sitting across from each other at a restaurant, but it became a beautiful connection practice we shared. We’d place our hands to each other’s, and feel the energy space between our two palms. We’d then make it larger or closer, like a joint meditational trance.
But, soon life got busy, and it got put away…
~ Until our second daughter was born early and was in the icu for 2 weeks.
With our spiritual connection as our lifeline, we looked for energetic ways to help our little girl who was under lights to bring down her jaundice and there were whispering doctors who made us feel helpless. With a 10 month old at home, life was incredibly upsetting and overwhelming. I wanted to connect to our new daughter, but could barely touch her.
Suddenly our energy work found it’s way to us again. Each time my husband and I used our energy from our hands to send her healing, we could watch as her heartrate would calm and you could see her physically relax, she was surrounded by love, and could physically and spiritually feel it.
But life got busy again. You may know that with 2 little girls less than a year apart, I got lost in stress and tried to follow the “should” road for awhile.
I dabbled with energy work with my kids, when they got hurt, I held a half intention when my son came earth side, But energy work was brought to my doorstep when a therapeutic touch teacher walked into a business we had 4 years ago. We ended up holding classes for her to teach the art of therapeutic touch, and instead of rental costs for the space, I got to attend as did my daughters.
There I learnt about focus, about the energy flow I’d only been intuitively using, I learnt about grounding and even distant healing.
I knew it was something special, when my mother was sick and I asked if I could do a distant healing on her. A couple of days later she called me up asking if I’d done it at 10pm the night before; which of course is exactly when I’d practiced it.
Since then I’ve used energy work often in my parenting.
When a child is upset or hyper, I send them grounding energy, focusing on their feet to draw energy down.
As in the post from the other night, I practice sweeping energy from the tops of their heads, down their bodies, and then hold their feet, grounding them after clearing their “field”…
This practice has helped them fall asleep easily, it’s stopped headaches (which is from too much energy in the head) and also later on, my teenage daughters’ cramps or pms.
Since it’s become a common practice with my kids, they also have learnt how to practice it, and I’ve often asked them to ground my feet when life gets stressful.
Like I mentioned in my post, I used to get stressed when my kids couldn’t sleep,
I could feel the tension build up inside of me, and know that would keep them awake even more. Hey, I used to get stressed a lot, I felt like I was on a treadmill… surrounded by fog. But now focusing on my feet and grounding my energy when I’m on the run is one of my immediate go-tos when I need to connect and de-stress.
It’s kind of amazing how we take things for granted, but energy work has found itself a foundational place within my home and I think it’s time I make it more of a foundational tool for my work.
After all, one of my favorite posts in the FB group is the Sunday Energy Offering, where I lead you through the processes of connecting within so you can radiate that loving energy out.
Last fall I created the Energy Workshop recording, which covers 3 basic ways to use Energy Work…
I don’t go into the details of chakras or grids, rather this is all about practical applications of connecting within, supporting your kids and also, ways to be among other people and stay true to yourself.
Energy work will be a huge element in my new kids course Aware Kids.
But I also want to offer you an actual experience of what an energy session feels like…
So, I’ve decided to create a new coaching session.
Basically, it’s an hour session, which is divided in half.
The first half hour is coaching. I’ll help you connect to you and rediscover your inner resources, on either a specific situation or on a perspective you would like to shift.
The second half hour will be a distant energy session. We’ll turn off the video element of our call, you’ll get comfortable and I’ll practice a distant healing.
I’ve offered a few trial sessions and the results have been inspiring.
Here’s one participant’s response:
I had a session with Christina yesterday and she blew my mind. I cannot recommend her enough!
This really is possible and powerful.
What do you think?
Would you like to experience an energy shift? Would you like to learn more about how to practice with your kids and on yourself?
Does this resonate?
You can check out this offering from this page here.
I am committing myself to the quest to make magic a little more part of the normal. We are energy beings.
We are Spiritual Beings having a physical experience. Creating a more spiritually connected physical experience is everything this work is about.
When we tune into our spiritual and energy essence to clear our stresses, anxieties and even sicknesses, we allow healing on a deeper level and create space for new perspective to flow in.
It’s time to embrace EVERYTHING we are.
The other night my family and I went to see the film A Wrinkle in Time, which was one of my favorite books growing up. There is nothing more satisfying than having a film reflect the energy found in a book. Although a few changes had been made, it did nothing to affect the general theme of the story:
That within us, all of us, we have the power of love;
which can overcome any darkness, challenge or obstacle.
In fact, with poignant detail, it amplified the message to empower our children in the current world we live in.
Young Meg, who is shown to have such low sense of self worth since her father’s disappearance, is called to be a light warrior along with her brother, Charles Wallace and friend, Calvin. Together they travel to a dark place, run by a Dark Energy Force IT, on a rescue mission to save her father. It’s weapon is that voice of self doubt, negative brain chatter, jealousy, anger, frustration and it can travel the universe. It leads to destruction.
And the only tool to defeat it is LOVE.
I read this book, and it’s sequels, growing up, and again quite recently, so I was so eager to share the film experience with my children.
My 8.5 year old, movie-sensitive, son had no idea what to expect, but enjoyed it. (He might have had his head in my arm for the climax at the end, but I think he appreciated the clear contrast between light and dark, hero and challenge... rather than the murky grey that is often offered in films these days.)
My daughters read the book for the first time about 6 years ago, but then my younger daughter had just finished the book again for her GRADE 8 Oak Meadow Curriculum. So it was fresh in her mind and, because of the curriculum, she was able to experience it from a fuller perspective probably than the rest of us.
I am so excited that Oak Meadow included this book in the grade 8. My happy student was asked to produce an essay/book report after she was done and was given a list of questions which guided her into a deeper perspective of the book’s symbolism.
This is so important, as it really is a relevant story for our lives.
The book’s author, Madeleine L’Engle has always been a hero of mine. She wrote about Spirituality, self empowerment and vulnerability as well as science through the craft of a novel and her non-fiction. I think she submitted A Wrinkle in Time about 40 times before it found a publishing home. She was passionate. She was a light warrior in New York, and in her lifetime.
Yes, the Newberry award winning book is a common inclusion in school curriculum, but I found Oak Meadow brought it to life in a beautiful way, diving deep into the question of why the power of love could defeat the dark force, when nothing else, including genius and high intelligence, could.
My daughter loves to focus on one topic at a time in Oak Meadow, and with the selection of books in this year English was her first choice to start off with.
So far she’s read The Giver, A Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy and Lord of the Flies, all before A Wrinkle in Time… she’s moving through them in such a passionate, yet beautiful manner.
The curriculum also asks her to work through the book Writing for 100 Days, which as challenged her writing and her grammar in ways that empowered her and gave her concrete tools, all at the same time of providing her with stories based in self discovery and empowerment.
She’s so much more confident in her writing and in her processing of the written word and a sense of self. (Which I didn’t think was possible. If there was one thing I thought I’d homeschooled well in up to this point, it was English. But, Oak Meadow has truly inspired a more profound and detailed use of the written word in my girl.)
I found it also amazing that during the chapters of A Wrinkle in Time she was asked to do stream of subconscious writing. A process I often suggest to my own clients.
Why is all of this important and what am I expressing here?
We live in a time when there’s a lot of fear happening in our world,
it’s vital to give empowering tools to our children.
Watching films, or reading books, like A Wrinkle In Time remind them that within them are powerful tools, universal connections, and that so many “events and circumstances had to come together in just the right way for them to come here.” (to loosely quote Oprah Winfrey’s character in the film)
In other words, each child, each person is special, unique and here for a purpose. When we give purpose and tools for empowerment to our children, a sense of belonging, they can be like Meg and overcome their fear with love from within.
Reading, watching or hearing stories that spark this truth within our children is a huge step in creating a better world for them.
I am so thankful that curriculum like Oak Meadow, and film creators are beginning to recognize this fundamental step in a child’s (yikes… teen’s) development and education. With their crafted curriculum lessons they give students confidence, encouragement and tools to move forward with. It’s exhilarating.
Love and light!
I can’t believe that a year ago my daughter Gia was still struggling with schoolwork.
Oh my goodness, what a tangled mess we used to live in. She hated standard curriculum, would zone out if I suggested movies or educational videos like those her sister was using. She was staggering, literally staggering, through a few programs we’d found and she would often make herself sick by giving herself pressure to do things that felt so un-natural to her. Often I would suggest unschooling to her, but this worked against her desire for structure, for routine.
We know we both work well with routine and rebel against it at the same time.
I relate so much to my girl. We look a lot alike, but more we learn alike. I was home-schooled off and on when I was growing up, and the concept of sitting and memorizing what people told me to, without any explanation why, without any dramatic build so I could feel it in my soul… it was like pulling teeth!
But last year we started the grade 7 Oak Meadow curriculum with my girl, and it all changed.
Because of the program, we’ve watched her develop in confidence, focus, concentration and self awareness. She’s come into her own understanding, whereas before that she often felt lost in the middle-child- shadows.
Last week her grade 8 curriculum arrived, and I know I will be diving in to share with you the new developments as she embarks on this last year before the “High School” topics (after grade 8 Oak Meadow does full high school topics, which are no longer divided up in years, but subjects only.). We actually chose to get our girl the curriculum a grade behind her “registered” year, as the information in this curriculum is so vast and varied I wanted to make sure she felt confident as she dove in.
It It worked. She doesn’t feel “behind” anymore as she now just sees it as years rather than grades.
Anyway, I wanted to share with you a few in depth observations I’ve had about the grade 7 program before I start to get excited about grade 8…
I know it’s going to happen!
The grade 7 is divided up in 4 books/subjects and also came with a teacher’s manual which we both found helped a lot. There was also a plethora of fiction and non-fiction paperbacks to support the material in the curriculum. My daughter started off scheduling her days with different topics… Monday, Wednesday and Friday for some and then the rest on Tuesdays and Thursdays… but this soon changed.
She fell in love with the world history and decided to go full steam ahead. Therefore she worked on World History and English together… (as in this year the material supported each other) and then did Science and finished up with Math. The subjects were as followed:
I’ve always loved History, but I’ve always seen it in a timeline, a progression of time where one thing happened and then another. I never realized how limiting this is… especially when you consider all the different things that happened all at once in various places around the world! We’ve been creating a tunnel vision on culture, sticking to a timeline that was relevant to our own perspectives. This is what impressed me so much with the grade 7 World History, and why I think it made such an impact on my daughter; it moved through concepts rather than time.
Take the industrial revolution, which was a major theme. From learning about Romans and Egyptians, the curriculum seamlessly took her through the Renaissance and into the 1800s and then into the age of flight and modern technology. She went from studying ancient philosophy to asking how television and information overload affected her own mentality. At first my linear mind would get baffled, asking how they would fit in all what they were trying to cover, but it all built upon themes rather than time. How organic! Then, my daughter’s creativity was encouraged as she did various projects from a stop motion presentation of Henry VIII, to a project on cars, (which she actually loved to do). She created flags, maps, wrote essays and poetry all to support the knowledge she was absorbing rather than memorizing.
My kids have always embraced English as a topic, so at first my daughter felt like it could be quite a breeze working through a grade 7 English. She read the required books in lightning time and wrote the projects in conjunction with the World History. What she wasn’t expecting was to make such leaps in her writing. Essay writing has always been a bit of a struggle to implement with our homeschooling. Often my girls have done the required reading, but then the projects and essays would fall to the wayside. I’ve been so eager for them to have a true essay writing skill, since I know how this can affect them once they go into University or pursue their post education. Oak Meadow’s English did just the job. My daughter now has a fuller grasp of how to relay information, how to break down topics, questions and use language to convey meaning. It was amazing to watch the transformation in her work.
I think my daughter’s unschooling years created a strong foundation in her science without her even knowing it. From her time of living on our homestead she’s consistently been learning about erosion, climate, water, ph balances, energy sources and weather systems as well as biodiversity, habitats and the living Earth, all which were topics covered in this year’s science. However, this grade 7 curriculum was able to put it in easy to flow through mini sections with nice little test questions at the end to help her feel confident in the information. The exercises were kept creative, with stories to be written, interviews and research to conduct and it was really created with the concept that life on the planet is fascinating, exciting and important to understand for everyone who lives on it. I think my daughter had an interesting push me-pull me reaction to the science as she didn’t know how much science she already understood and at the same time, she was surprised how “NOT BORING”, real science is. The study of life, how things work, how everything is connected and how things rely on each other at the deepest of levels… it really is magic! (and I think that excited her.)
So when my mother homeschooled me she used to always say that “as long as I had a grade 7 math” I’d get along alright. Well, finally after working through the grade 7 math with my daughter, I can finally get along! (haha!)
My brain has rebelled against math my whole life and when I knew my daughter was the same I have to admit, I was slightly panicking at the idea of working through this subject with her. The rest of the curriculum was pretty independent, we’d touch base, but really she was able to complete her projects mostly on her own. (As a work at home mom who is also homeschooling a reluctant 8 year old, I appreciated this SO much!) But the math we decided would be the one we sat and did together. Both as nervous as the other we were so happily surprised when we could actually understand the tasks at hand. We would use her boogie board to figure it out before putting our answers in and the easy to follow answer key in the back helped too.
There was only one problem my daughter experienced… I was so excited to finally be understanding grade 7 math, she had to ask me to stop from working out the answers. Sigh! (But I think that it's a good sign that she got me to stop. Awhile back she would have done anything to get out of doing it herself!)
I so wish I’d had a curriculum like Oak Meadow growing up. It has the perfect combination of creative projects, inspiring self contemplation (so the student feels they are self developing as well as learning facts) and concrete learning, so a student feels they are moving forward through their school years.
I really would highly recommend it to anyone who is looking for balance in homeschooling.
Right, now on to grade 8!
Oh and if you want to learn more about Oak Meadow you can learn more through their website. You've never met a more helpful staff who are always ready to answer your questions. (Oh, and I happen to know there's a great Valentine's day sale coming up, so keep your eye out!)
The Canadian online Homeschooling conference started this weekend. (you can still register, simply visit here for info. It’s on for a full week, has incredible resources, seminars, learning opportunities and offers on. It really is a chance in a million. I'm so happy to see it being put together as it has been!)
Whenever I see an event like this, with such a range of curriculum choices and perspectives, I am reminded how happy I am to be home schooling my children during this time.
I myself was home-schooled a lot of my childhood (have I ever told you that?) and my mom was left with very little choice to what programs I could be enrolled in.
Back then it was workbooks… really, really boring workbooks which left no room for imagination what so ever. My children are shocked at my stories of standing in front of the basement door which had a multiplication table poster hanging on it. I would recite and recite with tears streaming down my face.
We worked through some interesting approaches with what was available, I must admit:
My older sisters trying to teach me about the planets by using balls in our living room. My mom buying a set of Harvard Classics telling me that if I read them all my education was done. Oh, then the famous time I had to take my GED at 16, as the agreed way to get me into the College Theatre Program I’d set my heart on...
It was the biggest, boring-est workbook to date!
But apart from being bored, I often felt restricted with the subconscious belief that I had to go through a back door to succeed or cheating a system.
I often felt like I wasn’t getting something.
That I just couldn’t grasp certain things.
As I continued my education, going through College and University, that disappeared, but I knew as I overcame certain stumbling blocks, that homeschooling was a wonderful opportunity, but it needed better tools in place for parents.
I want my kids education process to set them free not hold them back. (I got accepted into the theatre program by the skin of my teeth. My math scores were shameful.)I want them to be able to move through exams, essays or life experiences with a confident flow, not because they are so used to doing them, but because they aren’t afraid to make mistakes or to learn how things work.
I have 3 kids and each one learns completely differently, as I’ve often mentioned. But one clear element remains the same;
The mission here is to learn how to learn.
. I don’t want them to feel intimidated to make a mistake, to have to make a certain mark, I want them knowing that mistakes are gifts, because (as all scientists know) they give us knowledge of what works and what doesn’t. Mistakes are as important as successes.
My 8 year old went outside in the snow yesterday and built a snowman for an hour and a half… alone. This is new patterns for him and I’m excited to seeing him exploring them. When he came in, I shook off his wet clothes, handed him his hot chocolate and told him… no reading practice today unless he wanted to. He didn’t.
“I build snowmen for schoolwork.” He laughed. “I have the best life.”
At 8, I want him living creatively, productively and knowing the satisfaction of learning something new. I want to see him playing to his hearts content… which since his sisters are older he’s always struggled to find the rhythm to. He learned jingle bells on the piano the other day and it was like a light going on. He still forgets what fun is found in learning. Same as the other day when he did some reading practice, he was so satisfied to see the new reality that he can actually read, having been stuck in the pattern of thinking he couldn’t.
This has been so re-occurring in my children’s individual journeys through home schooling. The concept of “schoolwork” is often seen with negative connotations and that creates a block around how they learn.
At one point with my second daughter we actually stopped using the term schoolwork, instead it was called Pineapple every time we had to do it.
She was so much like me when I thought boring workbooks was the only way my kids would learn. She would just lay on her book and cry.
But then, as I've mentioned, we discovered Oak Meadow, which fits her like it was custom made. We put her a year “behind” so she could get a strong, confident start in the program and she is like a different girl. She’s confident, she’s honest and upfront, she doesn’t hesitate in mistakes anymore or feel like she has to reach for a brass ring.
Rather, Oak Meadow has allowed schoolwork to transform into Learning… and that is the life process, right?
(by the way, Oak Meadow is sponsoring one of the days on the homeschooling conference and I think they may be having some nice treats to go along with that… and I can’t recommend the program enough!)
Our eldest girl… oh she dreams of high school.
Well actually I think as she gets older she’s starting to see the bigger picture of University and other adventures… but still she’s eager to jump into life. She sometimes starts to spin about opportunities missed by walking the home-school route. And yet, I always remind her, homeschoolers are sought by Universities for their ability to self regulate and learn. She has the ability to be building her blog at the same time as working on her algebra. She loves to push herself and now her interests and passions are being thrown into the mix of her educational pursuits. Music and blog writing has made the “schoolwork” list, helping her remember that “work” doesn’t always have to be things that we don’t like. Pleasure, learning, work and
I’m interested to see how she works with teachers who expect her to get things right, as in how they want it, rather than how she knows she can learn it. She was working through core-curriculum work, but I love watching how she suddenly finds different solutions to problems and learns things quickly, ready to bounce off to the next adventure.
Homeschooling has truly allowed my kids to grow confidently, self aware and with a joy in actual learning. Also, I’ve learned so much along side of them.
Actually that’s another thing about homeschooling. It has taught me that I don’t have to stop learning as well. There’s no expiration date on knowledge. (And thanks to Oak Meadow, I think I finally understand grade 7 math!)
Enjoy the Canadian Online Homeschool Conference and, feel free to comment and let me know what your greatest take away was! I'd love to know.)
I often talk about the law of attraction and, although, manifestation can have different connotations for different people, we all manifest daily, within each moment.
It’s just that we can live life more consciously and aware than we often do.
When we set an intention, we hold a thought, an idea, of something we would like to experience, or a shift in how we feel or live.
This intention has a feeling space, and when we use our imaginations to actually FEEL that feeling, our spirits, our hearts and even our cells within our bodies, don’t know it’s not actually happening.
Have you ever played an imaginary game with your child?
It’s so funny, because I so often resist playing pretend, and I don’t do it half as often as I wish I did… but when I do, when I actually get involved in a game with my kids, oh there’s nothing better. My son and I used to have a game where we had a magic car that would time travel and turn into whatever we needed. We rescued animals and saved the world on numerous occasions. The amazing thing was within that moment, there was always a moment, when we both just let go of our current perspective and lived within that game. We both would see the animals in danger, we both felt the adrenaline of excitement as we pulled them into our car for safety.
It’s the same when I write.
11 years ago I wrote a novel. I still work and re-work it and its sequel, one day they will make it out into the world. But what is amazing is how alive the characters are in my mind and heart. They are so dear to me. I love how they live, how they work as a family. I love how they communicate and share their home. Strangely enough, shortly after writing the book, similarities started to appear within our own lives and those of my characters. Even now, after all this time, my husband and I will laugh when something from that book “comes true.”
It’s not that it was planned that way. I didn’t visualize the story with the intention of painting out my own life, rather the FEELING of the stories and characters, the energy the books carry, held. It was like they became part of my signal that radiates out, and since I visit it often, sometimes it becomes my own.
There’s a great quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson:
“We become what we think about all day long.”
And this is really what I want to talk with you about today. Because the resistance I feel in playing an imaginary game with my son, or writing a story, comes from the resistance to focusing in on one energy feeling space. Like standing on the edge of a diving board, hesitating to jump, I can often resist diving into full focused experiences in life.
We live in fast paced worlds, we are all in information overload, and we are being bombarded by the different stories that are fed to us. We have our phones, our Facebook feeds and our full lives. We rarely hold on to a feeling space of one thought or story for more than a few moments. We jump from focus to focus and to-do lists items like they are hot coals and we’re worried we’ll get burned if we focus on one thing for too long.
So, when do we create our stories?
When do we become what we think about, when we think about everything?
We set New Year Intentions and consider them set, but I want to encourage you to visit them every once in a while. I’ve been visiting Thrive as my word of 2018 often, and really asking myself to dive deeper into my personal feeling of that word. How does it feel within my parenting, my marriage, my work, my spiritual practices?
My meditation practices isn’t just about trying to calm a scattered mind, rather I’m aiming to focus in on feeling the vibration of how I want to FEEL. Thrive isn’t a word, rather it’s a story.
My story and I’m exploring myself as my own character and how she navigates through life.
The other day in the facebook group I was telling everyone about the concept of 17 seconds.
It only takes 17 seconds of feeling a focus to allow it to take hold and grow into a following thought.
It’s surprising how difficult this practice can be with a modern day, over active mind. Abraham Hicks introduced the idea into their teachings of the law of attraction years ago and it’s one my husband and I use regularly.
(Jeff, my husband, actually created a mp3 tool awhile ago to help with maintain the focus without thinking of the actual 17 seconds time frame.
It’s a simple triangle ting which is struck every 17 seconds over the course of 10 minutes. The goal then is to simply hold focus from ting to ting allowing it to build in your imagination and vibration. It made the exercise so much easier.
I mentioned it on the group because I was finally able to get the MP3 tool over to my website for you to download for $1.99 if you wish.)
So, if we hold a feeling space, sparking it by using our imagination and experience, for a short of period of time as 17 seconds, then the energy is strong enough to attract more like minded thoughts. If we hold it for 4 sections of 17 seconds, so 68 seconds, then it starts to appear in our physical reality and it becomes part of who we are.
I never know if this sounds too simple or too difficult. How do you find the focus you wish to experience? How do you know what to give energy too? As scattered, information overloaded people, how do we decide?
Here’s a couple of steps how to find focus and how to dive off of the spiritual diving board.
1) Go simple. Go general.
This isn’t about castles in the clouds, this is about simple feeling spaces of Relief, happiness, and fulfillment. One of my favorite spaces to visit when I want to give focus to a feeling is a wood over in England. No specific wood, it just feels like an English wood. I walk through it, sit by a stream and feel myself relax and be present, for no other gain than because it feels good.
2) Set aside some time, or put post-its around to remind yourself, to practice holding focus for 17 seconds.
If you are doing dishes and see the post-it, 17 seconds of having soapy hands while you imagine something that feels good does the trick. 17 seconds is too short of time to not have time for… and each 17 seconds that passes with you holding specific focus, is being built upon anyway. You might as well do it consciously.
3) If you decide to grab the Mp3 tool, even just starting with playing the ting in the background helps.
I sometimes keep it on while I work, as it draws my attention back to my thoughts. On days I can’t find focus, I simply listen to the ting, much like breath focus work, and follow the vibrations of the triangle, until I can’t hear them anymore. Once I find focus then I can start setting intention with finding a feeling.
4) Journal, write, brain dump.
And then write your feelings out some more. It all starts with awareness to how things feel, so that you can consciously choose how you wish to feel by focus.
5) Allow yourself to play.
Imagine, daydream, and stretch out of the day to day. No harm can come from playing and experiencing different things through the power of your own mind. Our children do it all the time, why shouldn't we?
My life has become so much deeper since I started to allow myself to dive deeper into the intention of my focus. You are allowed to interrupt thought processes to refocus to things that feel better.
You are allowed to pursue feeling relief and feeling good. Because when we feel better we allow ourselves to be the parents we want to be.
Christina shares her personal experiences as a Spiritually Aware Parent as well as tools and tips which will help a parent's journey.